I promised to keep a secret. And when I made that promise I was in shock from the news and stammered out an okay. Afterwards, with time to think, this was not a secret that I wanted to keep. It wasn't right.
I'm going to tell that secret here. You might think that bad of me. But the secret involves me and I am angered that it was kept. No one who reads this blog is effected by it, and if they are, the truth is one that should be out anyway.
In 2008, my husband and I separated. It wasn't messy, we simply parted ways and moved on in different directions. We remained friends and didn't initiate a divorce right away because there was no hurry. Speed ahead a few years, I began the process of a divorce, but had some financial difficulties and didn't go ahead with it. No big deal he said, he would do it.
Fast forward now to 2011. He decides that he is going to propose to his current girlfriend. I'm happy for him and I send an email to see what he wants to do. He says, no problem, I'm filing right after xmas. I'm not working due to medical conditions, but he assures me that he is the one getting married, so he will handle the divorce. Perfect.
Months go by. Nothing. I message again. He's procrastinating. They've already set a date. October 13, 2012. Better get on it.
July. Still hasn't filed. Finally gets things together and files the beginning of August. End of September comes and I have heard nothing.
The next email informs me that he filled out part of the paperwork wrong and had to re-file. We will not be divorced by the wedding. I ask, what are you going to do?
He replies their justice of the peace has agreed to give them a fake wedding. Yes, a fake one. And they will sign a real marriage certificate when our divorce goes through. Are you fucking kidding me? Also, he asks, can you not say anything? Our guests believe it's real and no one knows because we are embarrassed.
First of all, if I was his fiance I would punch him in the throat.
Second, am I that worthless that you can't even finalize a divorce with your first wife before you go on? You had a whole year to get the divorce. So, scratch that, you have more then a year because he obviously knew he were going to propose before Christmas.
When he posted "I'm a married man" I just wanted to scream. Yeah you are. Married to me still! How do you like that? Every wedding anniversary you ever have will be a lie. Do you know why? Because you don't want anyone to know.
I am not angry at him for getting married. That ship sailed long ago. But I do think that both me and his fiance/current-fake-wife deserve more respect then this. She deserves to have a perfect day and know that on that day every year she can be proud of her wedding day.
Enough of my ranting. It will all be over soon. And I will be happy to close that chapter. I wish them the best and I hope that this doesn't overshadow their marriage. Speaking as a women, I can tell you that THAT will be leverage later on. :p
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